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Words in wellcasters. We do not need to tell you about the benefits of friendship. The way you feel when you're around good friends is proof that having friends is key to being happy and healthy.
0:12
If you really want us to throw some science into the mix we can. What point out a study from the journal of experimental social psychology which believe it or not, stood participants in front of the hill.
0:24
Then they asked these participants to judge it steepness. Get this, people that stood in front of the hill alone throught it was a lot steeper than those that stood with their friends.
0:34
How great is that?
0:36
We're sure there's a huge metaphor in there about “when the going gets tough”, but we gonna leave that alone for now.
0:44
Today we're talking about a specific type of friendship, what if you and your friend are incredibly different.
0:51
We'll give you our method for making a friendship work even between two
Opposites, and we'll show you why having a good friend who is different than you
can actually be a great thing.
1:03
Sometimes friendships are based on mutual interest maybe you're both uh... into
morris code or fans of sherlock, it's possible, all right, those people are out. Our writers think this is possible anyways, so I'm going to keep going.
1:19
Moving on, sometimes your friend is your complete opposite, like the Watson to your Sherlock , okay so there was a metaphor there ,I apologize.
1:28
Here's the good news. And out there friend can actually encourage you to try new things, help you get outside your comfort zone and even teach you more about yourself.
1:37
The bad news. There might be some arguments, so we're going to help you get through these fights now.
1:44
Step one, turn conflicts into conversations. Different people come in situations from different viewpoints, and this makes fights harder to resolve.
1:53
Okay let's say that your friend is a classic feeler, and you are a thinker.
1:58
When you argue you’ll both be confused and frustrated, because you don't understand why the other person isn’t in the same place as you.
2:05
If you in that situation, say the following two things to your friend: one. tell me where you're coming from. and two what are you feeling right now? And then, genuinely listen to their response.
2:18
It's incredible how many arguments can be resolved by an honest and upfront conversation and a dash of empathy.
2:26
Step two. Be...patient. learning how to be patient is crucial. Hey, if you can learn to take a deep breath and take a step back from a situation and calm down, you will be able to work through most problems
2:45
Try the breathing exercise we practice in our anger management episode. If you're having a hard time staying composed, it happens.
2:54
Step three, appreciate your friends’ differences. Instead of focusing on the gap between you and your friends, focus on the pros of having a friend who is your complete opposite.
3:07
What can they teach you? If you are naturally introverted, and a extroverted friend might be a huge help at parties, let her do all the talking to strangers.
3:17
“ Hey! ” the introverted friend in turn will help the extroverted be more grounded, considerate.
“ Hey, that’s my foot. ”
3:23
Step four, be willing to compromise. This is just a huge part in any relationship,
you have to let some points that you really feel passion about slide for the sake of the friendship.
3:38
Hey, compromising is never easy, but sometimes you have to let the little things go in order to preserve something much more important.
3:46
To recap. When you're dealing with a friend who's pretty different from yourself
tried these steps, turn conflicts in the conversations. Be patient, appreciate your friends differences, and above all be willing to compromise.
4:01
Tweet us at watchwellcast. E-mail us at watchwellcast@gmail.com. Or leave a comments\ down blow. We’ll see you next time.
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